tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-132492192024-03-13T12:20:47.783-05:00Choice MomThe politics of our decision to proactively have children on our own, <br />or to be single, are not simple. Here's where we vent.Choice Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07497491654768050485noreply@blogger.comBlogger62125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13249219.post-70159661394409911132012-09-07T08:30:00.001-05:002012-09-07T08:30:32.376-05:00Are you a good student and a tired woman?Read full post hereChoice Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07497491654768050485noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13249219.post-10863224583580210002012-08-30T10:58:00.001-05:002012-08-30T10:58:57.092-05:00What holds us in place?Read in full hereChoice Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07497491654768050485noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13249219.post-79539848891209766222012-08-25T09:03:00.001-05:002012-08-25T09:03:58.780-05:00Being in love with life: examining a weekFind the full text here Choice Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07497491654768050485noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13249219.post-64371492810544452902012-08-19T19:13:00.001-05:002012-08-19T19:14:03.380-05:00Can you make change happen?Can you make change happen? Read the full post here. Choice Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07497491654768050485noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13249219.post-35905069290865621862012-08-15T13:05:00.001-05:002012-08-15T13:05:05.924-05:00Intimacy? What's that?Intimacy? What's that? full blog post hereChoice Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07497491654768050485noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13249219.post-75682019033223846762012-07-29T09:22:00.001-05:002012-07-29T09:22:46.483-05:00Choice Moms Vacation in Jamaica!Interested in joining a group of Choice Moms on vacation?Choice Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07497491654768050485noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13249219.post-32490040728842499992012-07-14T19:33:00.001-05:002012-07-14T19:33:19.309-05:00Relishing island life with my kidsOn spending a week in a village of 60, being reminded of why our kids grow up strong and tall "even in" a single-parent homeChoice Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07497491654768050485noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13249219.post-71043202394932579312012-06-30T11:40:00.001-05:002012-06-30T11:40:30.130-05:00When my 8-year-old son met our known donorClick here for the story. Choice Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07497491654768050485noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13249219.post-9489472467967094062012-04-08T10:08:00.001-05:002012-04-08T10:08:58.284-05:00The Five Myths about the Choice Mom JourneyAre you a single women who is considering becoming a mother on your own? Do you believe one of these five myths?Choice Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07497491654768050485noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13249219.post-7533566215837426032012-02-10T17:23:00.000-06:002012-02-10T17:23:47.213-06:00Where Choice Moms find support, insight and resourcesCheck out this new storybook for Choice Moms and Choice Kids to share, written by a Choice Mom and illustrated by six Choice Kids.Choice Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07497491654768050485noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13249219.post-90022980028489887362011-05-07T09:30:00.002-05:002011-05-07T09:34:31.430-05:00Mother's Day HonestyThis Mother's Day weekend I'm contemplating the good, the bad, and the ugly of Choice Motherhood.Let's start with the ugly.Some of us are struggling to become mothers. Some of us are struggling after motherhood. Financially, emotionally, physically, logistically. This is not an easy journey.I know Choice Moms with strong salaries and secure jobs, who are extremely stressed trying to juggle work Choice Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07497491654768050485noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13249219.post-21274296878593502592011-04-24T07:43:00.005-05:002011-04-24T08:30:14.762-05:00Do your children know who you are?Before you start feeling guilty about the images you didn't put into scrapbooks about your kids this winter, I want to give you a fresh new project to think about.For Mother's Day this year, I'm preparing a photo book about ME to give my kids.Before they came into our lives, we dreamed about what kind of mother we wanted to be -- what kind of child we might have. Then our child was HERE and we Choice Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07497491654768050485noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13249219.post-72667838255500705082011-04-06T05:53:00.004-05:002011-04-06T06:02:43.665-05:00Special resources for the Choice Mom communityAs we develop more (largely FREE!) e-books and other special guides for the Choice Mom community, I thought this would be a good place to list everything so far available. This list will grow, so keep checking back.Choice Mom Guide to Donor SpermThe 28-page guidebook offers Q&A about key sperm bank policies... suggestions on how to make contact with donor families... resources for talking to yourChoice Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07497491654768050485noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13249219.post-84462416134269765012011-04-01T13:38:00.001-05:002011-04-01T13:38:41.727-05:00Conscious Conversations #2Here it is...the end of the month when we focused on Conscious Conversations, and it took me weeks to get to THIS conversation with you. Isn't that the trickiness of our lives? How to make time for what matters, when the minutia of everyday gets in our way.My daughter is nearly 12 and we've been having the most fascinating conversations lately. Nothing about the lack of a father in her life -- Choice Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07497491654768050485noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13249219.post-68005395105795087942011-03-07T13:39:00.000-06:002011-04-01T13:39:47.565-05:00Conscious Conversations #1A friend called out of the blue to ask to catch up after months of absence. We talked about how hard it is for him to find interesting women to talk to about non-superficial things, and how he wondered if he’d ever find a partner.We talked about the new role models I was attempting to add to the lives of my children. He asked, "When are you going to stop finding people who add to your kids’ livesChoice Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07497491654768050485noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13249219.post-52561673910833895632011-02-28T13:40:00.000-06:002011-04-01T13:41:17.262-05:00The balancing act we all faceOne of the hardest things I struggle with is finding balance.Not so much between keeping work, motherhood and social life juggling at once. I've gotten better at that, interestingly, since I became a mother and realigned my perspective about what is important in life. (In my 20s I was a workaholic, in my 30s I was rediscovering the value of HAVING a social life, now in my 40s I am setting aside Choice Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07497491654768050485noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13249219.post-53033418321659704402011-02-14T13:42:00.000-06:002011-04-01T13:42:35.194-05:00Wish List: The Best PartnersAdmittedly I've become pretty oblivious to Valentine's Day. But that doesn't mean I don't have dreams...In one daydream, I have a fabulous boyfriend who is an electrician, so he can fix the fixtures that need to be replaced.Last fall, I had an ultimate handyman for awhile. He was diligent and took great pride in his work. But after I mentally counted up hours, then asked for a preliminary bill, Choice Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07497491654768050485noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13249219.post-64153245033222559192011-01-01T12:01:00.003-06:002011-01-01T12:03:58.989-06:00Happy New Year!Did you know we have an amazing e-book on the website this week....the best insights, expert tips and stories of the new-and-improved ChoiceMoms.org in 2010.Check it out hereMikkiChoice Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07497491654768050485noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13249219.post-61079024881275363632010-11-24T09:18:00.005-06:002010-11-24T11:08:47.039-06:00Dan Buettner: Tips for happinessI went to a talk by a well-respected neighbor of mine, Dan Buettner, whose latest book, Thrive: Finding Happiness the Blue Zones Way, is about tips he gleaned from worldwide research, database correlations, and conversations with individuals in the happiest cities in the world.I brought my 6-year-old son, who contentedly sat in a corner reading "Diary of a Wimpy Kid." Later I was congratulated byChoice Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07497491654768050485noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13249219.post-18125118573401870392010-11-01T10:06:00.006-05:002010-11-01T11:10:51.588-05:00The Nature of BordersA recent conversation with a friend of mine reminded me of the borders that are so easy to construct in our relationships with others. The role we play in keeping people at a distance. And simply the fact that so many of my friends are single. The nature of my very business with the Choice Mom community is working with women around the world who are raising kids alone.Why is this, I wondered? WhyChoice Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07497491654768050485noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13249219.post-37043773209086995062010-05-24T12:11:00.001-05:002010-05-24T12:11:40.420-05:00VISIT THE NEW FORMATNote that in February 2010 the ChoiceMoms.org website moved to a more dynamic format that enables us to add daily blogs to the website itself in each category of the Choice Mom journey -- with even more bells and whistles that includes audio clips, sponsor deals, event details and more.Visit the Choice Moms blogs at:http://www.choicemoms.orgMikkiChoice Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07497491654768050485noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13249219.post-7222356483244152952009-12-09T08:23:00.002-06:002009-12-09T08:30:48.632-06:00Who disapproves? Here's who...One woman on the Choice Mom discussion board noticed a pattern -- that others have agreed with -- about who tends to disapprove of the Choice Mom path, and who does not:I've started casually telling family and friends that I'm planning on starting to conceive or adopt by myself w/in the next two years. I've gotten a range of responses, some negative and some positive.The people who have respondedChoice Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07497491654768050485noreply@blogger.com12tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13249219.post-90568232589714149192009-11-13T10:04:00.002-06:002009-11-13T10:10:36.744-06:00When a divorced mother who is retired chief justice of the Georgia Supreme Court recently wrote an opinion piece about the importance of marriage for CNN, indicating among other things that single parenthood is glorified, one of her points was this:“Memo to single mothers by choice: When you decide to have a child alone in order to fulfill your deep need to parent, you may be deliberately Choice Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07497491654768050485noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13249219.post-28884468331079964902009-10-25T17:58:00.004-05:002009-10-25T18:10:53.643-05:00Happy Birthday Darwin, from Choice MomsAs my daughter will quickly tell you, anytime I hear the terms "Darwin" or "evolution" or "DNA" my ears perk right up. I have so many unread books about evolution in my bedroom you would think it was my life's ambition to understand all the microscopic nuances of barnacles and birds that Darwin himself found so fascinating.The truth is, however, that it fascinates me -- but I don't comprehend it.Choice Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07497491654768050485noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13249219.post-59102184522329982392009-09-21T13:36:00.005-05:002009-09-21T13:41:47.047-05:00Choice Moms Radio ShowIf you haven't listened yet, here are the "Choosing Single Motherhood" radio shows now available from the ChoiceMoms.org website: * Show #11: Dating as a single parent * Show #10: Emotions of the Choice Mom journey, the anger, frustration, sadness, fear and joy we go through in each stage, from Thinking to Trying to Waiting to Becoming to Being a Choice Mom. * Show #9: Finding the right Choice Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07497491654768050485noreply@blogger.com0